Anonymous said: How should I react to K-pop fans calling me "unnie" when we speak 100% English to one another... Like it's kinda cute at first but it's more awkward than cute, to be completely honest...
call them nerds and steal their lunch money.
Anonymous said: I know you have said more than once that learning Korean does not mean you are a koreaboo, but do you really have to have a /good/ reason to learn it? I'm not trying to go against you or anything, and I'm sorry if I come off that way, but I'm just curious. To me, it just seems like if you're truly willing to learn a language fully and completely (or anything, for that matter), then it really doesn't matter what reason you have for doing it, right?
this is kind of a difficult question to answer because language is very integral to culture. it’s difficult to separate the two, because once you do you run the risk of being insensitive/offensive. for example: a man learns mandarin, but has no interest in learning chinese culture, customs, etiquette, etc. so while speaking mandarin with other chinese people, he says things that come off as rude, he offends people because while it may be okay to say a certain phrase in english, its not appropriate in the context of a conversation with chinese people.
so to answer your question, it’s less that you need a good reason and more that you need to have the right intentions. and yes, there is a certain degree of reasoning that goes into it: do you want to learn korean so you can lord it over other people, even korean-americans for example who may not speak korean? are you going to use it respectfully? do you only want to learn it so you can understand k-dramas and tweet oppa using hangul? in the latter case, you’re unlikely to pay attention to cultural nuances within the language. but if learning korean is simply an interest of yours and you’re willing to do all the work that goes along with correctly learning it, then in my opinion that’s good enough.
ok so im going to call this girl “T”.
so T is a genuine person (atleast when i first met her) (shes white, im korean for background info) and she was into kpop and all that and i wasnt really into it at the time. at first i didnt really realize her annoying behavior until my friends (who arent korean) even started complaining about her. for example, when they heard about the bap concert, T wasnt even interested in bap but she just had to go. this is happening with the upcoming B1A4 concert as well. shes admitted that she doesnt even like B1A4. (i admit this was sort of a bitchy move on my part but my friends and i decided not to tell T about the concert bc we didnt really want to deal with her there but ofc she found out and just had to get tickets.) the reason why i brought up that i was korean and she wasnt is because of her excessive need to learn the language. (she took a 9 week? course in learning the Chinese language and shes never mentioned wanting to learn about its culture and now she thinks she’s some expert) and now T is trying to learn korean for a reason that i cant seem to understand? shes even said that she might eventually be better than me. honestly, i dont think shell understand the language like someone who was born into it and it’s very disrespectful to think that you might become “better” than someone else. it’s also extremely offensive when she tries to write in terribly broken korean… (for ex. my korean friend who moved away commented “i miss you” in korean under an instagram post and T replied with “*insert city name* is gone *korean friend name*” making it sound like she lost our city??) she also dated this one guy just because he was asian. (i partake fault in that because i pointed him out to her which was stupid)
and i know this part isnt a big deal but i cant help feel a little wary when T keeps saying “selca” instead of selfie… i know selca is derived from “self camera” but when did we ever call it that? obviously she started calling it that after she got into kpop which actually makes me uncomfortable for some reason? her username even used to be (im putting a fake name that also works with the username for privacy reasons) “faylasians” (the “fayl” being the replacement)
another thing is is that she acts like she knows everything about kpop and what’s happening (even though she didnt even find out about the b1a4 concert until a month after tickets went on sale lol) and she keeps complaining on how other people are always trying to “steal” her bias…like theyre actually hers… and we’re forbidden to have the same bias…..
another girl, let’s call her G (also not korean)
she’s a senior at the high school i go to and we share the same gym class. we (T and i) found out she liked kpop too so ofc we started talking but then i saw that she was really obsessed with asians. she really could not stop talking about kpop. i started talking about koreaboos to her in hopes of her realizing what she was doing (such as misusing honorifics, learning the language for pointless reasons, acting like they know the culture just because of kpop, etc.) and she said something along the lines of “Oh, well my non-korean friend and I are very close so i always call her unnie and sometimes ahjumma to make her angry hahahah.” im not very good at confronting people so i didnt say anything. she also said “I’m actually interested in the culture like how youre at a cashier and you put your hand on the front of your other arm’s elbow (your underarm) and hand them the money like that.” (i guess i saw it a few times but i cant help but feel that you only do that with the most utmost respect. idk it was ridiculous when i heard it but ofc i went along with it.) she kept going on and on about how she supposedly is interested in the culture and not just for kpop. she also said that i looked like i could play an athletic girl from a korean drama. what is that even supposed to mean? also she wants “oppa” to notice her. i dont find that bad but when you actually try hard and i mean “try to stand out during their performances they can instantaneously fall in love you” hard…for someone who’s a senior i would expect better than this.
i guess you could call them koreaboos or just plain arrogant and disrespectful. either way, i want none of it.
thanks for letting me rant..
Anonymous said: I thought I would point this out to any Koreaboos who "want to date their oppars." 1. Korean guys are still guys. Just because your idols have a clean/pure image doesn't mean that ALL Korean guys do, and it doesn't mean your "oppar" won't take advantage of the fact that you're into Korean guys. He'll know if you're being superficial and he'll be superficial right back. 2. Native Koreans will sometimes date non-Koreans for fun, but they won't marry one. ESPECIALLY if they are the oldest male.
(Part 2) A friend of mine was telling me the other day that to him, white girls are a sort of fantasy, but he wouldn’t marry one. Now I know he doesn’t represent ALL Korean guys, but as a culture, this isn’t a rare or exclusive opinion to have. So ask yourselves this Koreaboos - do you really want to be some Korean guy’s temp for him to just play you? To date you of curiosity? If him being Korean affects your opinion of him in any way, you need to take a step back an re-evaluate yourself.
(Part 3) Also, please stop calling any guy older than you “오빠” (oppa). You don’t just address any guy like that, and what’s the point if you’re not speaking Korean to one another? It’s really tacky and distasteful, and most Koreans will (out of politeness) try to avoid you once identifying you as a Koreaboo. Is that really the kind of impression you want to have? If you want to learn about Korean culture, actually learn about Korean CULTURE and LANGUAGE not just K-pop…
Anonymous said: That story about Michael Cho is really upsetting ... why does anyone who isn't white have to go out in fear of being shot by racist fucking shitwad law enforcement?? RIP Mike Brown. RIP Mike Cho.
because racism is alive and well and apparently protect and serve only applies as long as you’re not poc….
Anonymous said: I'm /not/ Asian and the fact that a person attacking this blog has to state twice in the same message that they are Asian is a clear indication that they aren't really Asian. 1. I never met an Asian person who didn't identify their ethnicity (not just race)? Like "I'm Thai, Vietnamese, Korean, [insert ethnicity here], etc." 2. White privilege is a thing, and I'm a mixed but primarily white person saying this, so please educate yourself and move on.
(Part 2) Can I also point out that Americans have grievously fucked up on the way races are identified? Ever looked at a standardized tests that asks what the hell you are and not knowing what to put? “Are you or are you not Hispanic (non-white)?” 1. Hispanic is not a “race.” 2. being Hispanic doesn’t make me non-white. I am a WHITE Hispanic. I have really pale skin and obvious European roots! Anyway, I think this is part of the problem with people generalizing the term “Asian” as only East Asians.
(Part 3) The terms are not only incredibly broad, but very generalized and inaccurate, and a lot of people seem to think that race/ethnicity are the same when they are not. I wish someone would re-educate the American population on the issue of race/ethnicity, because most white people don’t know what the hell is going on or “don’t see color,” and everyone else is either pissed off or trying to assimilate as best as they can, and it’s bullshit.
(Part 4) Then you have Koreaboos … ALREADY ignorant members of the population who are bored with being white and yet use their whiteness to their advantage because Korean media fetishizes/prefers “western-looking features.” I’ve seen it in K-pop for so long now that I’m in shock when I see an idol who /hasn’t/ had a shit ton of plastic surgery (ex: that adorable girl in AKMU - she looks so natural). It’s really bothersome.
anon i would kiss you if i could.
THIS is a person who is educated on the issues.
Anonymous said: i have just a few things to say. 1. stick to the customs of your OWN culture. 2. if you want to learn the language, have a good reason and dont use the language whenever it isnt needed (ex. talking to non korean people, actually being non korean, calling your non-korean mom "umma", etc.) there are subbers for a reason. 3. dont try to be "asian' just for the sake of wanting to be one. you already have your own culture. (in my own personal opinion, learning simple phrases and words is fine.)
disclaimer: assimilating into a culture for the sake of etiquette/politeness is fine. for the sake of this blog, for example, if you were to move to south korea for whichever reason, following customs to avoid being offensive would be necessary.
Anonymous said: Part 1: I started Korean in school this year. It's an academy class which means i travel to another school every morning for it. It was the first day and I have no friends in my class. It is Korean 1 and most of the people are Korean with an exception to a couple white and black people. The teacher sat me next to this girl who was white. She seemed nice and I hoped we could become friends. Afterwards she was on my bus and I realize we go to the same school. She was pretty cool and seemed normal.
Part 2: I met her once after that (I’ll call her M) and I could tell we were becoming friends. The 3rd day if school, I was with my friend in another class (who’s korean) and she was like “ew this koreaboo is texting me and I don’t even know what she’s saying”. I asked her who is was and she said it was M and i was so surprised. I thought they could just be different people with the same name. But soon after that I began noticing everything I didn’t before.
Part 3: I found M’s social media accounts and was shocked. She was exactly the type of person i was trying to stay away from. On the accounts she calls her self “wasian” and her bio is a bunch of Korean words in Hangul but they were spelled incorrectly and didn’t make any sense. Her photos were all in “ulzang” style (not sure if thats what it’s called or spelled). And she was the Republic of Korea flag in her bio too and all her captions were in korean and she has so many pics of kpop stars.
Part 4: I’m not really into kpop and she honestly seemed like an obssesed fan. She called all the stars her “unnie” and “oppa” and other times “hyung and noona” whivh made no sense. Her recent pictures had “오니” “오파”. They were spelled so wrong it was disgusting. I tried not to judge her for this but the next day when I got to class she called her her “chingu”. I know we were in korean class. But she just uses a bunch of random broken korean phrases and its so annoying. I didn’t wanna be mean but
Part 5: But I just really disliked her personality and didn’t wanna be friends. If this wasn’t bad enough she got worse. In class she was telling these koreans they weren’t real koreans because they didn’t like kpop. I was astounded by how stupid she was. She started acting annoying around me too always asking if she looked half Korean and how she could get one of the “oppas” in our class to be her boyfriend. This still continues every day, the teacher hates her, and she’s failing the class.